Sex of any kind can harm teens

Teenagers often suffer emotional consequences from having sex, even when it's only oral sex. Researchers at the University of California San Francisco, USA, conducted a series of surveys given to 618 students at two public high schools, beginning in ninth grade when they were 14 years old. Of these, 275 reported having oral sex, vaginal sex or both by tenth grade. Among the sexually active teens, those who said they'd had only oral sex were generally less likely to report negative consequences, whether physical - pregnancy or sexually transmitted infections - or emotional. However, they were also less likely to report positive effects, like feeling closer to their partner or feeling good about themselves. Such positive feelings about sex were common, the study found. In fact, the teens more often reported positive effects than negative ones. This suggests that when parents talk with their kids about sex, it might be a good idea to acknowledge the potential positive outcomes, like emotional intimacy. Parents could then talk about other ways to find those same feelings. It was found that up to one-half of the sexually active teenagers in their study said that they felt used, guilty or regretful after having sex. Though such feelings were less common among teens who only had oral sex, about one-third reported some type of negative consequence. In particular, the study found, girls were twice as likely as boys to say that they ever felt bad about themselves after having sex, and three times more likely to say they'd felt used. Though the study could not look at the reasons for this difference, other studies have noted that there's pressure on girls to at once be sexually attractive yet resist having sex. In contrast, boy's sexuality and sexual behaviour is generally accepted. Parents can play an important role in helping to eliminate this double standard by encouraging respect for women and discouraging the use of derogatory sexual terms. The researchers suggest that parents should be sure to talk with their kids about the potential negative effects of having sex, of any kind. When parents and teens talk about the consequences of having sex, they may not take the time to define what sex is. It is important for parents to help teenagers understand that having oral sex may result in social, emotional and physical health consequences similar to vaginal sex.