Q: I have a problem related to psychology. I had a girlfriend for the last 3 years. We met on Internet first time. As we were living in different places, we could meet each other only 8-9 times in 3 years. We used to chat on Internet and phone almost every second day. She had a very loving and caring attitude, and we started interacting very emotionally. I had a wavering attitude and despite her asking me many times to start communication between our parents for marriage, i did not. She recently got married at once, and I got a shock on hearing this news. She said she was forced by her parents. I am in a deep guilt that I never married her and lingered on the things, I am not able to sleep, or work. I don't feel like eating at all. I am very sad for the last 7 days. Please suggest what I should do.

A:Your reaction to her marriage to another is understandable. First, you must be upset with yourself for delaying when you now feel you should have acted. Second, she must seem more attractive now than she did, when you were delaying. Perhaps you were thinking she would wait for you until you got around to moving forward. The best thing you can do is learn from this sad turn of events. Do better next time, but do not be hasty and make the mistake of marrying on the quick rebound of your disappointment. Your reaction does not seem to be an illness, only a sad disappointment from which you can learn a valuable lesson about life.