Q: I am a 30 years old male, working in Kuwait for the last 18 months. Though I'm surrounded with people, I still feel lonely and home sick. Soon I'm getting married. Loneliness is affecting my relationships. I sometimes develop a habit of doubting. I get angry very often. I love my fiancée so much that I feel like talking to her at all times, though it is not practical. I feel I don't give her space sometimes. I stay alone and I don't know how to overcome this. Please help me. I don't want to lose her or any of my relationships because of this problem.

A:I congratulate you for having the courage to not only accept your problems but also to look forward to the needful solutions. Loneliness does create problems for many. People at times start developing certain insecurities, doubts or obsessions during stress. Remember, marriage is about mutual trust, commitment, respect, care, responsibility and companionship. It calls for mutual adjustments. But one should also try to respect certain boundaries and give some space to one's partner. Unnecessary doubts and enmeshments can harm relationships. I suggest the following:

• Do engage in certain constructive hobbies that match your aptitude / interests
• Try to develop a healthy social circle if possible. Try to maintain healthy communication with family and friends.
• Try to read constructive and positive books / literature
• Try to listen to your fiancée and be encouraging in your conversation with her
• Do not ring her at odd hours
• Try to think positive. Try to challenge irrational ideas / thoughts with more rational and optimistic thoughts.
• Try to maintain a healthy life style. Avoid alcohol / drugs of abuse. Eat healthy and sleep well.
• Try to exercise regularly.
• Try and maintain a constructive activity schedule.
• Try to keep yourself busy in constructive / positive hobbies / work.