My boyfriend says that my behaviour has changed, what should I do?
Q: I am a 23-year-old girl having an emotional strain with my boyfriend. We have been friends since our childhood and are in a relationship from the last 5 years. Now he says that, I have changed a lot in my behaviour. He says that I am not that energetic, exuberant or easy going and full of life as I used to be 5 years ago. I had to set my career with a good foundation. I was full of life and had all the above attitudes, even after we started our relationship, but at that time he used to discourage me to act like that and now he wants me to revert back to it. It is not that I am not willing to, its just that as the time went by, I started thinking differently and felt difficult to come back to that attitude. I don't understand, what he wants to convey. He even compares my present photograph with the previous ones. How should I handle this situation? Is he trying to avoid me though he says that he hasn't lost interest in me? My family front is also not going well. Please advise.
A:In life, there are transitions with our experiences, and that is natural, also what is important is how one is comfortable with ones own self, and its also important to realise that one can't change oneself according to the needs of someone, as this happens by itself but not by force or demand. I suggest you talk to him, and work on your communications, see what is concerning him and how can that be addressed, or you may talk to an expert and take some counselling sessions.