How should I handle my colleague's physical attraction towards me?
Q: My colleague is attracted towards me. How can I handle this situation myself? I have a 9-5 job. I spend the evenings invariably with my family. My husband usually stays away from us as he's pursuing higher studies. Should I permit my colleague to handle me physically till his attraction dies down because in spite of my openly telling him that physical relationship of any kind is a taboo in our society, he does not agree? Since my husband stays away, I remain tensed most of the times. I have to manage a lot of college work, house work and tensions of what people might be talking about me. I am clear that I will never cheat my husband. I am also into a spiritual group wherein there are many restrictions and discipline. All this makes me mad. Please advise.
A:Sexuality is never only physical, and its implications are emotional, at thought levels, and on ones life as well. So merely being physical cannot be the end to any situation, as one would not know the repercussions on the relationship and otherwise. Moreover I would like to keep the marital relations issue separate from your work place issue, and each needs to be handled exclusive of the other, and one need not mix the two. You need to focus and improve the marital relationship by communication of your feelings and consider counseling. As for the work place issue, evaluate the long term implications on your life before moving further.