Q: I'm married since the past 4 years. My husband seems to have more sexual attraction towards my sister than me. My sister comes occasionally to my house. She stays in a different city. My husband says that he is not able to control his feelings and desires and wants to have sex with her. Both of them always talk in sexual terms and keep teasing each other. Though he likes me and we don't have any problem, whenever my sister comes home on vacation, the problem begins. What should I do to make my husband change his behaviour? Please tell.

A:Your husband doesn't seem to be distressed by the current state of affairs. However, you sound more worried and affected by it. Thus, it will be better if you bring the focus to yourself and see what you want to do about this. If the situation is bothering you, then the onus lies on you to do something about it. It might be a good idea for you to express your thoughts and feelings around this to your husband. What are your fears, insecurities, how is it affecting you? Talking to your sister is another option to know what is on her mind? How does she view this situation? This would help you get more clarity to decide upon any further course of action.