My boyfriend avoids being to close to my family, what should I do?
Q: My boyfriend has visited my house quite a few times. I like the idea to stay relaxed at home while watching a movie. But I have been to his house only 4 times. Out of which 2 were dinner invitations and the others were to fix his sister's hair. My boyfriend gives many excuses like he doesn't want to get very close with me. The other excuse is that he doesn't want to pass everyday at either of our homes. He thinks that after 2 years of togetherness something will crop up and we will break off. We have been together for a year and 7 months now. I am really hurt about this. I think that maybe his family doesn't like me or he is thinking of leaving me. My sister is getting married soon and he is invited to the wedding. I told him that since he doesn't want to be very close, he should not come as all my family will be there. I don't know what to do and on the other side, I don't want to push him. Please advise.
A:You need to discuss with him, all this without being upset or angry. Different people take time to adjust with the transition of marriage and adjustment to families, you should communicate your thoughts and try and work this out; relationships have to go through the highs and lows, and stable relationships needs to be worked upon.