I am depressed due to fear of failure, what should I do?
Q: I am 23 years old. I completed my B.com and law graduation this year. I am giving my company secretary exam. I could not clear the exam in my earlier attempt so I am depressed. I have no job experience and I feel like crying. I sometimes think whether I took the right decision by joining the course. I discussed this with my parents and friends and they encourage me to continue. I am financially secured so there is no urgent need for a job. But I doubt whether I can complete my course as many of my friends have left the course telling me that it is difficult to clear. I don't know what to do. Do I have any disorder?
A:All of us are afraid of failures and we all fail in some and pass - in some it may be an examination/ in other aspects of life. The best thing to do with the failures is to learn from the mistakes that we did and try to correct them rather than brood on the failure per se. The same probably holds true for examinations too. If you fail once, go through the mistakes that you did / the parts that you did not cover (study properly) / if possible get some coaching / other training, etc. - all of these will help you get through the examination. If some of your friends have left the course, as the test was difficult, I am sure there were lot many who were able to clear the tests. So if you are really interested (really interested! - not because your parents or someone else wants you too) in getting through this course / test, I am sure you will.