How should I deal with the situation?
Q: I am a 34 years man married for the last 4 years with a good homely wife and blessed with a two-year-old daughter. I am jovial in nature. I have developed a relation with my ex-colleague who is known to me for the last 5 years. Off late the friendship has grown into more of an emotional relation. We have been moving close (not any physical relation) but on a day-to-day basis we meet discuss everything. She is physically attractive and sometimes I may fall for it also, but nothing really works out on the romance front. It has now become to a situation that we keep talking daily, discuss everything good and bad and I support her financially sometimes too. In the mean time I feel that I have been getting more attached to her and if this continues I may be ignoring my wife and child. So I am thinking a way out of this relation or may be keeping at a distance. Please help.
A:I am glad that you have started examining your priorities vis a vis this friendship. Human emotions have a way of getting out of hand sometimes and creating heartburn. It may be a good idea, as a beginning to not talk or communicate every day. Then gradually send her the message as to which relations are really important to you. Let your wife answer your phone sometimes. For that matter she may also be using you as a punching bag rather than wanting any long lasting relationship.