Q: I am 56 years old and have chronic hypertension-paroxysmal tachycardia – Premature ventricular contractions (PVC). I am under treatment for the past 7 years. My wife has become absolutely dry in the bedroom and has told me several times that she is not at all interested in sex. I too, due to the side effects of all the drugs I have been taking have very less sex appeal. If I watch a blue film, I become violent, but due to non-cooperation of my wife, I am helpless. She has told me to go outside for this purpose. My maidservant knows this and has sympathy for me. She has offered me for oral sex. Should I start relations with her? I recently saw my wife with her boy friend in our bedroom, making out in the 69 position. She told me that she is not afraid of me. What is oral sex?

A:Oral sex consists of all sexual activities that involve the use of the mouth, teeth, tongue and possibly the throat to stimulate ones genitals. It may be used as foreplay before intercourse, as climax of a sexual act, during or following intercourse. Now about starting a relation with your lady servant. Well that’s completely your call depending on what you think and feel about it? If you are okay with this kind of an arrangement and think that you can handle the outcome, good or bad, then there is little reason for you to keep pondering over it again and again.