Q: I got married one year ago but I am still not satisfied with sex. For the first 6 months, we did not have intercourse because my wife did not allow me near her. After that we had sex only for 15 days and she become pregnant. She took advantage of this and did not allow me near her so I stopped having sex during her pregnancy. She doesn't have any health problems, the only thing is that she is afraid of pain and lacks proper desire. Besides, I have a problem of premature ejaculation. She is going to deliver next month and we have decided to enjoy after her delivery. How can I help her increase her desire to satisfy myself? Please suggest some sex related books, since we both don't know how to have sex more satisfactorily. She had undergone mental trauma before marriage and this is her second marriage while mine is first. Is it because of this that she couldn't accept me physically in the first few months?

A:Once both of you have sorted out your differences and she has agreed to participate more actively, your sex life will improve considerably. Good and loving relations between husband and wife always lead to better sexual desire and relations. Please wait. As the tensions and conflict go down, your problem of premature ejaculation would also improve.