How can I stop my son from putting up his middle finger?

Q: My son is 7 years old and always seems to have a habit of some description. It could be making a noise when he eats or pulling a face. Now he has started putting up his middle finger and just can't help himself. What should I do? I feel bad when I tell him not to, as he says he cannot help it, and gets upset.

A:It seems a little unlikely that a seven year old cannot help putting up his middle finger. I think that there is some attention seeking in his act. It seems to me that he wants to be scolded! Sometimes children get into behaviour that is not approved so that they will be noticed. Make sure your son has enough interesting activities and full parental attention.